Welcome to Emotional Change Counselling Services

Lisa Smith is committed to providing Emotional Therapeutic Counselling for individuals. Lisa offers accessible counselling within Birmingham and Bromsgrove. Coming to counselling can be a scary prospect and that’s why I have chosen to work from centres that are friendly, warm and relaxed, where you can feel at ease. Lisa is committed to helping you to find happiness and fulfilment in your life and to overcome any barriers to this.

Recent Blog

Saying Goodbye

This week sees me say goodbye to a job that I have held for 15 years. I say goodbye with mixed feelings in my heart and above all else knowing that the time is right. Saying goodbye to a practice that at one point I enjoyed and cherish has not been an easy decision.  Dentistry has

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The Person Who Walks Away

On more than one occasion this week I have been reminded that the person who walks away also feels a great deal of pain and how often we forget that! Relationship, Job, Country or situation doesn’t mean that the person who walks away, walks away without feeling!  Often hear the hurt persons version of accounts,

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Presidential Election

Today I set my alarm form 2am to watch the Presidential Election Results come in. Just like Brevity the results for most people as a massive shock. In the UK most people believe that Hilary Clinton would be not only the next President but also the first female president. What are the Presidential Election and Brexit Results

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Self Talk

We all do it! May be only to a small degree but we do!  We talk to ourselves, through a problem we are solving to our plans for the next year! Self talk!  It can be positive, however 9 times out of 10 it is a nagging little voice that berates, ridicules and punishes us

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Forgetting to Play

Forgetting to play is about the part of us that we lose when life gets in the way! Responsibilty of bills, family, work, childern the list is endless. I have written about responsibility several times and I believe that tour emotional wellbeing is down to ourselves.  However I also believe there is a downside to it!

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Hindsight

How Many Times have you heard in Hindsight I Should have……….. Hindsight:  the ability to understand an event or situation only after it has happened: With (the benefit/wisdom of) hindsight, I should have taken the job. Inhindsight, it would have been better to wait. Hindsight is a funny thing! We make choices based on facts,

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Gratitude

Gratitude according to the Oxford english dictionary means:  quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. When the world appears to be against us gratitude is something we often forget about, all we can see is the bad, we can’t acknowledge or look at the little things that even for a

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Caregiver

When you hear the term Caregiver you instantly think of people who are looking after people who are terminally ill. In todays world a caregiver is something more: especially in relation to all aspects of health including supporting those with depression.  At times a Caregiver can seem unsupportive, it isn’t because they don’t care it because they have

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Emotion, Mind and the Physical

Emotion, mind and the physical play a massive part in our lives, even if we don’t like to admit it! Emotion, Mind and the Physical Yesterday I attended the first Super Saturday event (UNOFFICIAL) in the UK. Super Saturdays are quarterly events held across America and Canada by Beachbody coaches; helping to inspire people to

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Boundaries

Boundaries – a line which marks the limits of an area; a dividing line. Boundaries are an essential part of life.  More than one billion people are active on Facebook and more than 100 million people use Instagram every month.  Posting a variety of images, statuses, comments, following others and generally sharing information with the whole

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BIG CHANGE

Wow Big Change this am! Yesterday 72% of the population stepped out  and voted in one of the biggest elections of  in my lifetime.   52% voted leave and 48%. However I believe whichever way the vote had gone CHANGE  inevitable! At the moment, you can read Facebook and twitter posts reacting to the BREXIT results

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Masks

Masks are a protective covering that disguises who we really are! All of us wear Masks and often we have many that we switch for different situations. Using them to protect ourselves from been hurt by friends, family and often ourselves; sometimes knowing what we are doing and other times not, believing that we are the only ones

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Cost

Recently on the Counselling Directory Website a counsellor had a rant about constantly getting asked for concession prices.  I have to say I cringed and generally felt very uncomfortable, however I could see this ladies point of view. Honestly feeling that the subject of Cost is something that perhaps needed addressing. Although most therapists will have concession

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Shades of Colour

Many years ago I sat on a train and listened to my family take on my life with gusto. At the time I had made a choice to enjoy myself, putting my needs first and making the choice to stay single!   As many people can imagine my choices were not going down well!  BUT WHY?

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Toothache

A few weeks ago I attended a CPD day on marketing, the lovely Deborah and Tracey encourage us to look at awareness day for us to blog about.   So today as I breifly flicked through the February awareness days I came accross National Toothache Day! Yes Toothache Day! Toothache Day has seriously got to be

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Story Telling

National Story Telling week starts 30th January until 6th February. National Story Telling week is about using the oral tradition of storytelling.  Story telling is first way of communicating life experiences and using creative imagination. Taking place in storytelling clubs, theatres, museums, schools, hospitals and care homes a web of stories will be spun with sufficient magic between the

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Bliss

BLISS – What is it? Bliss is the time of day when the world is silent, very few people are awake, there are no cars going up and down my road.  Its just me curled up on my sofa with a giant mug of coffee listening to the world! It is 3am in the UK and

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Resolution

Resolution: A. firm decision to do something: made a resolution to get more exercise. B. A course of action determined or decided on: His resolution is to get up early. The time has come again to set our New Years Resolution, every year thousands of us start the year with a clear intention to adhere to them,

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Obligation

Obligation Definition: A social, legal, or moral requirement, such as a duty, contract, or promise, that compels one to follow or avoid a particularcourse of action: Are you able to meet your obligations? I have an obligation to attend their wedding. b. The constraining power of a promise, contract, law, or sense of duty: I

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Gossip

Gossip we all do it even if it’s only to a small degree! we hear something and we need to know if it true! often havING an opinion. As much as I’d like to say there is harmless gossip, I’m going to say most gossip has the ability to destroy someone’s world! If we look at

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Therapies

Therapies, over the last few years have come in to competion with each other.  Often with practitioners saying there therapy is better than another, or this therapist is better than that one.  I often wander how clients manage to select either. Most therapists weather it be a bodywork or counsellor will have intensive training along

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Saving Mr Banks

Saving Mr Banks is one of those Sunday afternoon films that you watch when your in need a lazy day, a day for curling up on the sofa, watching movies and eating a fantastic Sunday lunch.  Saving Mr Banks stars Emma Thompson as P.L Travers and Tom Hanks as Walt Disney and you just know that

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Blood Moon

This week we witnessed a natural phenomenon in the form of the Blood Moon. What is a Blood Moon? In scientific terms a Blood Moon refers to a total lunar eclipse which is when the earth eclipses a full moon.  The sunlight is blocked and the sun’s rays light up the moon,  taking on a reddish colour.  This

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Anxiety

We’ve all experience anxiety to a small degree!  That worrying feeling, about doing simething new or how something will turn out!  But does it  actually stop us doing what we want to do?  Anxiety is becoming more and more of a problem for some people; becoming so bad that they can’t do anything for fear of

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Excuses

I have previously written about responsibilty but again I believe this is one of the biggest things we all have to do! Stopping with the EXCUSES EXCUSES and taking responsibily both for our own actions, behaviour and emotional wellbeing. There are times when we will all have used excuses ‘The dog ate our homework’, ‘the

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World War II

Recently the 1940s and World War II has featured alot within my life. During the War alot of sacrifice went on between men women and children, from food rationing to been seperated from their husbands or wives, childern from their mothers and lets not forget the loss of thousands of people either through them fighting

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Creativity

In february I attended a CPD workshop held by the Foundation for Emotional Therapeutic Counselling on Art Therapy, art isn’t something that I’m particular good at, I appreciate it to look at and I certainly appreciate the talent of anyone who can paint, draw, make amazing things out of clay, ceramics, silversmithing, the creativity that

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Reflexology

The reason why I  decided to train in Reflexology is: Like many pregnant women before me, I wanted to know how to get labour started towards the end of the 9 months. Feeling uncomfortable, tired and just pure excitement are just some of the reasons along with the fact my daughter was due the 18th December

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Reality Vs Shoulds

Over the years I’ve attended many workshops-counselling, spiritual and personal development, I would come home with reams of notes and full of ideas of living my life by the new things I learnt, but apart from been unrealistic they were not and were never going to be life changing for me; why? Reality vs Shoulds!

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Perception

On one of my training weekends with The Foundation Course for Emotional Therapeutic Counselling we carried out a task that involved the group sitting around a table a stone about the size of my hand was placed before us and we had 5minutes to write about what we saw, the easy answer is a stone

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Fifty Shades of Grey

Last night my girlfriends and I went to see Fifty Shades of Grey. Most of the counselling community will be gobsmacked that I went to see a film that ”promoted domestic violence”. With many of the counselling and spiritual community response to the Fifty Shades of Grey film (and books) being negative, you may ask why

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Expectations

Bill Gates visited a High School and gave a speech on the rules of life. Rule 1: Life is not fair – get used to it! Rule 2: The world doesn’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself. Rule 3: You will NOT make

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Advice Vs Counselling

There are many misconceptions about counselling that I come accross most days. The most common one is we tell our clients what to do in the form of advice, sometimes yes we do give advice but I say 99% of the time I’m there to listen, be a sounding board and ask the difficult questions

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Which Smarts are Important

This week I came across a facebook post from true activist about teaching children how to think rather than what to think, so are we creating a bunch of people who will not be able to think for themselves unless it is written in a book or taught in a lecture theatre and is education more

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One to Make You Think

Many years ago a friend of mine received an email, What if the world were 100 people?  It really caught my friends attention who then forwarded it to everyone he knew.  Yesterday I was thinking about this I tried to find the old email without success but came across edudemic which I think is very similar

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Masaro Emoto

Music unquestionably affects our emotions. We tend to listen to music that reflects our mood. When we’re happy we may listen to upbeat music; when we’re sad we may listen to slower, moving songs; when we’re angry we may listen to darker music with heavy guitar, drums, and vocals that reflect our level of anger.

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Heartfelt Connection Vs Social Media

This week I attended my first council meeting for The Foundation, forgetting my Kindle -shock horror, what was I meant to do on an hour long train journey when knowing that I needed to retain my battery for my phone.  Surely its only a hour I could sit there and watch the world go by,

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Reasons, Seasons & Lifetimes

This week I was reminded how real friendships start exactly were they’ve left off, even if you haven’t had contact for a while; which lead me to think about an exercise I sometimes do with my clients when they feel that a friendship is dwindling and they feel left out. Reasons, Seasons & Lifetimes Poem People come

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The Right to Choose

This week saw the Scottish people vote yes to stay apart of the UK, although many voted yes and the the results were very close who knows if in a future referendum the answer will be No. The referendum gave the Scottish people the right to choose there own fate.  I’m sure that there were

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Significant Events

This week saw the 13th anniversary of the attack on the World Trade Towers and the Pentagon. The enormity of what happened on 9/11 will always stay with me having visited this iconis city the previous year. Thousands of people lost loved ones! The children who lost parents, the partners, wives or husbands losing their

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Stress

‘We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” comes to mind. As we lose who we are and wrap oursleves in a world where work and commitments take over our whole life  we lose a part of ourselves forgetting to find enjoyment in doing simple things like we

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A Little R & R

We all know that a little R & R is good for us but do we ever take it? After last week’s blog on stress and the need to play, this week I decided to take my own advice and I went on a little day trip to somewhere the world will know as Downton

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Looking Back and the Reunion

In an episode of One Tree Hill a teacher stands at the front of a class and writes five universal school categories JOCKS GEEKS PROM QUEEN LONERS “FRIENDLY” He pairs them up with people they wouldn’t usually choose to work with and they have to do five things: Share something personal Lighten up. Do an

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In the Absence of Hope

This week sees us looking at the death of Robin Williams a man who was incredibly talented, he had won an Oscar for Good Will Hunting, appeared to have a family who loved and supported him, famous and probably rich.  Whilst at work this week I heard a few patients talking about Robin’s Suicide with

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Batten Down the Hatches Here Comes Hurricaine Anger!!!!!!

Hurricane Bertha is going to cause havoc today with storms expected, torrential rain; so for many of us we will be stay at home all snuggled up on the sofa watching family films and generally taking advantage of time at home. Whilst I’m sat here listening to the ran I can’t help but think about

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In A Maze (feeling lost)

On Saturday my family and I visited Maize Maze (www.broadfieldsfarm.co.uk). It’s something I’ve personally wanted to do for many years with only the British weather previously stopping us.  Whilst we had fun running around, chasing the kids and registering that none of us have any navigation skills whatsoever, I realised how much been within the

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Asking for Help is a Sign of Strength- FACT!!!

“The healthy and strong individual is the one who asks for help when he needs it.  Rona Barrett  Asking for help for many people is  admitting to failure, for many they carry on regardless struggling with their situation not knowing where to turn and admit their inner most thoughts, sometimes the need for help can

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The Invitation

The Invitation   It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing. It dosen’t interest me how old you are.  I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream,

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Emotional Responsibility

Responsibility is what most of us would say in that most areas of our lives we carry out well, maybe we begrudge it but we do it, we pay the bills, the mortgage, the rent, we work, the list is endless. But how many of us actually take responsibility for our emotional well-being?  if we have

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In Memory of Jane Rochfort

Today was Jane Rochfort’s Funeral!!! and I feel compelled to write about this amazing lady, So In Memory of Jane Rochfort I want to show gratitude to the things that she taught me as began my journey back in 2002. I am currently writing this blog from the Ikon Gallery in Birmingham and I’m trying

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The Gift of Time Travel

In the very early hours of the morning whilst I was on maternity leave and realising that the alarm would be going off for my husband to go to work and deciding that the 20 minutes sleep I may get just wasn’t worth attempting I came across a television program called Being Erica. Being Erica

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In My Therapy Room I Have A Big Bowl of Sweets

In my therapy room I have a big bowl of sweets! Why? Emotional Therapeutic Counselling works by accessing our inner child.  It looks at all of our pain, how what happened to us as a child affects our lives.  The example I always use is when you’re angry as a child how was it dealt

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Change Part 1

Any kind of therapy brings change, change means moving forward, it can be frightening or exciting perhaps even both. It all depends on if we feel what is happening is good for us or if it will be a negative situation. In the last year I have gone through changes, I became a mom (frightening),

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