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I have previously written about responsibilty but again I believe this is one of the biggest things we all have to do! Stopping with the EXCUSES EXCUSES and taking responsibily both for our own actions, behaviour and emotional wellbeing.
There are times when we will all have used excuses ‘The dog ate our homework’, ‘the bus was late’, yes they may even be legitemate. However how many times have we all heard a reason and thought excuses excuses?
The Oxford English Dictionary’s Definition:
1. The state or fact of having a duty to deal with something or of having control over someone.
2. The state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something.
3. A moral obligation to behave correctly towards or in respect of.
4. The opportunity or ability to act independently and take decisions without authorization.
5. A thing which one is required to do as part of a job, role, or legal obligation.
But what does responsibilty really mean in todays world?
There is a saying that I often think about when I am unable to help anyone any further:
”You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink”
What the idiom is saying is you can only give someone the opportunity to do something, but you cannot force them to do it! I can do all I can but my clients need to want the change so badly they can taste it! Responsibility is therefore with the indivdual! Although there will always be a duty of care if an indivdual doesn’t want our help there is nothing we can do! We can provide information and self development work however the client is the one who needs to read it or carry out the task.
Every session a client attends is a commitment to them improving their physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. Although counselling sessions will help a client, if changes aren’t made between sessions then they will only help in a minimal way. If a client doesn’t want to make the changes I cannot do it for them.
Responsibilty is something that we all should take seriously. We can all blame other people! However it is our responsibility! If you need to cancel an appointment (or fail I might add), forego a job, continue doing something that is effecting your health, then we can’t help!
You need to want the development or change. You need to want to show your employer you can do more and are capable of doing the promotion that they are currently advertising. Show respect to others by cancelling, even if it is last minute! Look after oursleves so that we can enjoy life! Louise Hay wrote about taking responsibility for ourselves, by stating it is our reaction to a situation that causes the hurt and pain and although iniatally I struggled with this I have to agree. Another persons behaviour is their behaviour and not our responsibility.
Excuses will always be there! However for us all to live a fulfilling life we need to take responsibility for ourselves first! Before you make an excuse and cancel a much needed appointment, remember that if you don’t attend to your health then that is on you! healthcare professionals can only help if you let us and take the perscribed medication or do the work.