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Obligation Definition:

A social, legal, or moral requirement, such as a duty, contract, or promise, that compels one to follow or avoid a particular course of action: Are you able to meet your obligations? I have an obligation to attend their wedding.
b. The constraining power of a promise, contract, law, or sense of duty: I felt no obligation to offer my advice.
c. Law A document in which a person binds himself or herself to undertake or refrain from doing a particular act.
d. A debt instrument, such as a loan, mortgage, or bond.

Christmas is a time of joy, right?

For some yes, for many no!  Apart from the increase of stress for many in people in the attempt to make the day perfect, many people are on there own, many people wish they were on the own, and many people go with the motion of force jovility.

The big question is:


Christmas demands a lot of people! Christmas parties, after work drinks, family visits, shopping, extra cooking and I wander if we are all honest how many of us are doing this because of obligation.  If you could do exactly what you wanted for the whole of December, would you:

Go to all the parties?

Commit to family obligations?

Be buying of all the presents?

Some people will say if you don’t do what is expected you are Bah Humbug!  But is that really true?  How many of us have ended up in a family argument at Christmas? Is this just stress of the build up? or is it because we are forced to spend time with people who usually avoid?

Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Jesus (even if we are non believers it is a religious day), however it is also important to remember that if we know that striving for perfection, attending every function, work or family related, the added pressure of rushing around buying, dropping off and collecting presents is adding stress why do we forego looking after our needs?

Think about the build up for Christmas! Waiting in endless queues at the check out!  Taking part in forced fun! All you want to do is be by yourself; though in the eyes of the fun forcers, being on your own is just wrong!  But after all it’s your choice and what ever makes you happy IS right!

It is OK to be alone at Christmas if you want to be! it is OK to sit back and let the others play when all you want to do is relax and not participate! It also right to be the life and soul of the party as long as you are not using that attention to mask what is really going on inside!  Instead of doing ‘obligation’ maybe we could all do the Christmas things we want to do! and may be then it will be the perfect Christmas!